A 4,000 hour failure
I put a 4,000 hour advantage into a drawer instead of into their toolbox.
Yes, it was harder for me, and yes, they have it better than I had. And they should absolutely start where I did and wrestle through the same battles. Those battles, after all, taught me what I know today. How can they gain the same navigation, grit, and confidence if they don’t start there?
And what about the time it takes? When I have to explain why B is the approach you need, and how C & D look like they work, but actually won’t once all the pieces are together, it’s another 15 to 30 minutes lost. Multiply that by half a dozen a week and I’m losing hours.
Yep. Figure that sh*t out yourself. It’s good for you. I had to learn all I could to survive; you should too.
I told myself they should face it solo so they they could become strong, learn to negotiate the unknown, and find their drive. What my actions said was that I wanted to be left alone. And in that decision, I prevented them from learning from my mistakes and starting off from my strengths. I took a 2 year head start and put that 4,000 hour advantage into a drawer instead of their toolbox.